Insights for Leading

I remember that Dad often remarked that I was very handsome. He told me that he loved my mum at first sight because she was very beautiful. I did not totally agree with him because I had hardly beheld the reflection of my face perfectly via any means, but I did not disagree with him either because I have learnt that old men don’t talk nonsense. Besides, due to constant physical labour, my body build had fledged. Now, because of my facial attractiveness, physique and responsibility within and outside of the house, my boss’ wife began to eye me. I did not notice initially until she began to create an atmosphere between us by ensuring that I served her personally; she even went as far as bringing me into her room to work there as though her female workers were not competent enough. Perhaps, she had despised her husband because of me, seeing that I embodied all that she wanted in a man whereas he often carried his military life into his home, commanding everybody without doing anyth...

In the first part of this series, I wrote extensively on the need for men to cultivate domestic responsibility, hence dignifying manhood, understanding the value of female folks and building our influence from the home, as we proceed from boyhood to adulthood. I also highlighted that negligence of DR as a core course has caused a great deal of societal disorder and occasioned the feminist movement. In this sequel, I want to underscore two more important points on our part that is necessary to erase mediocrity and restore dignity to manhood. First, strong men are gentlemen and one distinguishing factor of a gentleman is his respect for the rule of courtesy especially with regards to the opposite sex. We should open the door for ladies, give up our seat for them, allow them first choice, compliment them positively for their appearance, especially when they get a new hair-do, clothes or jewelleries. The list cannot just be exhausted here. Our words have a powerful effect on ...

This is to my fellow male folks, but ladies would also consider it a good read. C’mon, fella let’s talk man-to-man. Have you heard of domestic responsibility (for me, also known as DR)? And better still, have you cultivated it? DR is not a code for servants and slaves. No, not at all. Sons serve. Besides, manhood is a high calling and is dignified by responsibility. An irresponsible man is a contradiction in terms. We don’t have to be cooks, but we must learn to cook well. We don’t have to be dish-washers, but we must learn to wash dishes well. We don’t have to be drycleaners, but we must learn to wash and iron clothes well. We don’t have to be house cleaners, but we must learn to sweep floors and clean conveniences. Some guys out there are domestically irresponsible, yet, cosmetically luxurious. That is an excessive evil under the sun! For every lack of responsibility, a man voluntarily forfeits his legal rights and puts himself at the mercy of another – perchance, fem...