MADE FOR MORE

There is one disease that cripples the mind, dulls one’s sense of vision and results in handicap of the human will. It makes you doubt your capabilities, become too uncertain of the future, languish in self-pity and offer yourself cheap to others.

That disease is called inferiority complex.

While we might not readily admit it openly, we all have been infected by this virus at one point or the other. And if we look deeply, we would still discover traces of its presence in ourselves.

Inferiority is a feeling of being lesser and insufficient, hence, incapable of doing certain things or achieving feats as compared to others.

There are two major problems about inferiority:

1.      It is self-imposed
2.      It is established by wrong comparison

The first reason explains why no one can solve the inferiority problem for his neighbour, while second explains why the problem is unnecessary.

We usually talk of inferiority as a ‘complex’ which refers to a psychological box-like prison. One who suffers needs to realign his thinking to match with the reality of who God has made him to be. He needs to take control of his mind. No one can do this for him.

On the other hand, the words ‘inferior’ and ‘superior’ are used comparatively; that is, they are used to express comparison. Comparison can only be established between two or more entities. It is impossible to establish comparison when only one entity is involved.

The inferior person is always comparing himself with others as though he was made to be someone else, as if God made a mistake in creating him the way he is.

Well, that is not true. If you ever find yourself in such a mental situation, just know that you have believed a lie!

Besides, you need to need to discover yourself. You need to be aware that you are a unique and purposeful being with potentials for greatness. You need to know that you have what it takes to live life to its fullest, no matter what is thrown at you.

One major issue is that in comparing himself with another, the inferior person thinks of himself in terms of his weaknesses and thinks of others in terms of their strengths. This is an unhealthy comparison.

If you think properly, you will realize that you have strengths that you have not been given much of your attention and have been not developed. You also have potentials unexplored.

Besides, the people with whom you compare yourself also have weaknesses, but have developed their strengths to a good extent, such that you pass over their weaknesses while admiring their strengths.

You might need to work with a coach to help you discover your uniqueness and develop your potentials. (I will be willing to help).

However, you need to take charge of your situation. Don’t just sit there and languish in despair, irrespective of past mistakes, failures and disappointments.

When you discover yourself and focus on your uniqueness, you don’t need comparison. In fact, you turn from comparison to appreciation, and appreciation enhances self-confidence. Self-confidence helps you to value and express yourself healthily, hence, managing other people’s perception of you.

Of course, you are always better than you think you are. You are a bundle of limitless possibilities. You are not just made to survive, but to thrive. You are made for more!

#MadeForMore
Bright UKWENGA

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