THE BLAME BALM

It is so alarming to know that while the devil devices schemes to destroy men; many are busy devising blames to put him in the bad light as though he ever wished for anything better.

Blame is soothing relief from the fear of scorn, but it will never cure your hunger for success, significance and fulfilment.

Football – and other similar games – teaches us that only goal scorers can win in life and the best you can get if you live on the defensive is a draw, but you can never win! Besides, it is obvious in nature that a man of a thousand excuses is too weak to succeed.

Moreover, defensiveness makes life dull! No one admires a man who is always defensive, but the one who delivers results – and better still, the one who creatively turns failure into success!

For you to be that admirable person, you must discover yourself and accept responsibility. By discovering yourself, I mean having awareness of the fact that you are a unique and purposeful being with potentials for greatness. It means that you have what it takes to live life to its fullest, no matter what is thrown at you.

That knowledge stimulates you to accept responsibility to be your best. And when you accept responsibility, your mind comes alive and your creative potential is unlocked. I can’t tell exactly what you will do, but I can guarantee that you will do things you never imagined!

And here is subtle warning against blaming: even the devil does not mind taking all the blame for your failure as long as you don’t go any further. The reason is that in the end, all the blame you heap on him does not change the verdict of divine justice on him – but they can deny you of divine approval. Ask his captives in hell if you can.

So get up and get going!


#ITakeResponsibility

Bright UKWENGA

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